Cay Crow

Cay Crow is a Licensed Professional Counselor and an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She had a private practice in San Antonio, TX for 30 years. Ms. Crow believes in diversifying her work so she teaches Human Sexuality to undergraduates, developed and taught an Adult Sex Education Series at local adult stores in San Antonio and Austin, took every opportunity to give public talks and presentations, wrote a relationship and sexuality column for the San Antonio Express-News, and she has co-hosted a sexual health radio show entitled Night Moves on KSYM 90.1. Currently, her work focuses on supervising future sexuality professionals, teaching, and writing.

“It is difficult for me to believe that I am to the point in my career where I am supervising the next generation of sexologists! I have been a therapist for 30 years and a member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists since 1999. I will never forget the first conference I attended in Atlanta. I knew that I had found my tribe on the island of misfit toys!

As a supervisor, I like to think I bring the same realness to supervision that I brought to therapy. Providing sex therapy is more challenging than other types of therapy. It requires a therapist who is very clear with boundaries and with their own biases – and everyone has biases when it comes to sex. Part of the supervision process is looking at your biases and deciding where your ‘edges’ are. What are you comfortable working with and what aspects of sexuality can you not be objective about? As a supervisor, I am able to meet therapists where they are; this is a collaboration to integrate novel information and skills into your clinical work. My methodology in supervision is Socratic. I like to listen to how a clinician approaches a case then ask questions that expand the clinician’s perspective. I work from a trauma-informed, systemic, and existential frame of reference. My work with couples is informed by training with The Couple’s Institute (Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Pete Pearson) and inspired by Gottman.”