In the new sexual mantra of desire/pleasure/eroticism/satisfaction desire is the most important dimension. The paradox is that dysfunctional sex, conflictual sex, and sexual avoidance can destroy a loving marriage, but good sex cannot save a bad relationship. Contrary to “common sense” beliefs desire problems are most likely to occur early in the marriage and when couples over 50 stop being sexual it is almost always the man’ choice because he has lost confidence in erection and intercourse. When it’s “intercourse or nothing”, nothing wins.
This clinically-oriented workshop will explore the psychological, biomedical, and social/relational factors which undermine sexual desire. Couple sex therapy is an efficacious strategy to rekindle sexual desire. The focus is on pleasure-oriented touching and responsive sexual desire. A crucial concept is building her, his, and our bridges to desire. Crucial to successful treatment is to create an individualized relapse prevention program.
- Develop a treatment plan for no-sex and low-sex relationships
- Create and individualize psychosexual skill exercises to enhance sexual desire
- Demonstrate how to conduct an individual psychological/relational/sexual history
- Identify 2 strategies to facilitate relational and sexual recovery from an affair
- Create an individualized relapse prevention program
- Describe the psychobiosocial model to identify what promotes and what subverts desire
- Explain sexual desire issues for gay, lesbian, and non-traditional individuals and couples
- Contrast the Good Enough Sex (GES) model with the individual perfect performance model
Myths and realities of sexual desire
The new sexual mantra-desire/pleasure/eroticism/satisfaction
Model of couple sex therapy
Case study of couple sex therapy for a non-sexual marriage.
The psychobiosocial model for assessment and treatment of sex dysfunction
Desire psychosexual skill exercises
Female sexual dysfunction
Male sexual dysfunction
Five dimensions of sexual touch
The Good Enough Sex (GES) model vs. individual perfect sex performance model
Extra-marital affairs and its impact on sexual desire
Monogamy vs. consensual non-monogamy
Sexual recovery from affairs
Couple sexual style vs. couple relational style
Desire issues with each sexual style
Fatally flawed marriages
“Wise” relational and sexual decisions
The good divorce
Therapeutic strategies for variant sexual arousal
Sexual trauma and adult sexual desire case
Sexuality and aging-focus on desire and satisfaction
Relapse prevention strategies
Personal and professional values and referral process
Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, ABPP, is a board certified clinical psychologist (ABPP), certified marital and sex therapist, and a tenured professor of psychology at American University. His clinical expertise focused on integrating sex therapy strategies and techniques into individual and couple therapy, assessment and treatment of the most common male and female sexual problems, and a special expertise in the treatment of sexual desire disorders.
Dr. McCarthy earned his BA from Loyola University and his MA and PhD from Southern Illinois University. His professional memberships include the American Psychological Association, American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, Society for Sex Therapy and Research, and Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies. He is a Diplomate in sex therapy earning this from the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.
As a leading expert in this field, Dr. McCarthy has presented over 350 workshops around the world, and his extensive list of publications includes over 100 professional articles, 26 book chapters, and co-authorship of 14 books, including Rekindling Desire (2nd edition), Sexual Awareness (5th edition), Enduring Desire, Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style, Men’s Sexual Health, Coping with Erectile Dysfunction, Getting It Right the First Time, and Coping with Premature Ejaculation.